Marriage..What IS That!?

 

Marriage is a bond the two people have with one another which should not be shared with anyone other than your current spouse right? At least that's my definition. I am truly baffled at those who accuse others of destroying the sanctity of marriage when they are simply trying to bond with those they love. Or the ones who demonize other for not actually signing the CONTRACT OF MARRIAGE. I mean is marriage only legitimate when you and someone of the opposite sex sign some paper and say vowels in front of people who are probably jealous of you anyway?

First issue I have is the whole ruining the sanctity of marriage because of divorce, sexual orientation, etc. You know not too long ago it was illegal and widely unnaccepted to marry outside of your race or religion. Nowadays majority of people would not dare say that interracial couplees are WRONG. So why is it that so many homophobics want to denie human beings a God given right. And it is God given no matter what sexual orientation you are, because the sinning part (if you believe in it) is between you and your

GOD. Just like a liar, thief, murderer etc. The only one who can judge is the one who sees all, knows all, and has no bias from wordly views. If two people are truly in love it's their business what they want to do with that love. Is it bothersome because they're in love? Or because you can't find anyone to love your obsessive bitter ways. I will not judge, because usually those views are drilled in by parents and generations on up, and as much as I am on the offensive, everyone deserves to be defended.

Now let us touch upon the situation of the contract. I do believe marriage is a contract, however it does not mean you absolutely have to sign one to be qualified as married. My parents have been together for twenty years and have eight children together and none outside. The state accepts them as common law married, so what does it matter if there is no church bells ringing. On the flip side, my grandparents were married for 52 years before my grandfather passed. They signed the contract but do you really believe that some paper is what kept them together? My point is, why should we condemn a real love just because it's not on paper? Did God say that marriage had to be documented and signed. That there has to be rings exchanged? What about those people who get married and stay married, yet have no true bond to each other whatsoever? Are they not ruining the sanctity of marriage? I guess if a woman marries a man she is deeply in love with and he beats the living hell out of her every single day. He hurts her children, he is premiscuous, but he says he loves her with all his heart. So is she wrong for divorcing him? And if yes then why? Because God put her in that situation for a reason, because he is the one that will bring you out. Well guess what, he did.

Something Worth Taking

The Price of Virginity...And the Ones that go for Free

This topic has gotten me very heated in the past and this is NO DIFFERENT. Why does society think it's there choice to intrude upon a girls most personal experience and put a price on her sex. Also, on the flip side, why has good ol' society contiuosly equated manliness with their "body count" ? The outcome of these actions has been devastating to our young people (I am sixteen myself). I want to hit upon these subjects as well as teen pregnancy, sexual ignorance, and YES even religion.

Let us first delve into the world of the young American male. The guy who is constantly under scope to see as to whether he will protect and step up as a man or fall short. Way too often, however, the other end of the scope has a special lense. And it only lets a man's manlihood be seen through that lense if he's sexually active. Now granted this is not all people so don't go on some rant about that. However, way too often do I hear teen girls on up through women saying that they wold never be with a virgin male. WHY EXACTLY? Is it because he is ALMOST (there are other ways to get infected like a dirty needle) garaunteed to be clean of STD's and having children? Or maybe it's because he knows himself enough to realize that he needs to wait, or at least informed enough to know he's not ready to make the decision yet. Now in NO WAY am I bashing any males who have had multiple sex partners. I am bashing the ones who have multiple sex partners becaue they "wanted to be a man". I believe some women might be jealous of a man who waits because she had a bad sexual experience or whatever. So they want to look for guys who are just confused or guilty or even shameful as they are. Which by the way makes for an extremely unhealthy relationship since neither of you are at the emotional state to be "Knocking boots" anyway. Which brings me to my next point. 

I was watching a movie called Saved and the main character (a teen pregnant by a homosexual guy because she tried to save him by having sex with him and it in effect made her doubt everything she'd believed in) said something very intriguing. What if Mary (the virgin) was faking it? It would be the greatest lie ever that no one could use again. I for one do believe every word of the bible. However, the guilt and shame that was constantly being thrown down at her from those same people she once saved other people's souls with was too much. I do believe in the bible when it says sex should happen in the sanctity of marriage. However, it also says no sin is greater than another. Would you like someone calling you a miguided spon of satan and trying to exorcise you everytime you told a lie? He forgives, so forget about what others say. It's like people put this price tags on virginity. They tell little girls to gaurd it with all of their might. Make those who are not virgins seem like the scum of the earth. Married or not it's like once your virginity is gone..whoops there goes your worth. Unfortunately for most girls there goes that self esteem that relationship with your God etc. I have seen posts where there is a girl commenting "oh i've been saving myslef for marriage for 28 years and counting!" and a woman, "I waited until marriage and now i......." The point is, who do you think gets more praise? ALWAYS that girl. Like people are saying HOLD ON FOR DEAR LIFE. Those people are the ones who should catch a grip. Most likely THEY had sex at a time when they weren't ready be it marrital or pre marrital. Now they're want to project there pain and guilt on the ones who have made a well thought out decision. The decision should be between her/him and their God. 

Speaking of God. Why do people think that teen pregnancy is the worst thing that could happen. Because I picture the worst is being pushed off a building and knowing you're going to die aaaaalllll the way down. But regardless, don't you think those little precious babies that are "bastards" are just as much a part of God's Plans as the little ones you have running around? Why should we treat these children or their parents like some sort of sin itself. They can be forgiven but they are always going to be wrong. I am a bastard child. All of my parents EIGHT CHILDREN are. Which they have acquired over their 20 something year relationship. We have turned out smart, talented, respectful, and spiritual. If there is one thing that's hurting our teens it is not that, it is sexual ignorance. Never talking to young people about sex, sexual acts, how to really determine if you're ready etc. It kills me when parents strictly teach their kids SEX IS BAD!! NICE GIRLS WAIT!! LADIES DON'T DO THIS OR THAT!! It's all a steaming pile of crap. Because those are usually the same girls that get confused and just do it because they just want to know more. Are they no longer nice girls because they are "deflowered" (a word i hate btw). It's like a girl isn't as precios as a lovely flower anymore...instead ruined, and plucked from the ground. However, if you instill strong roots..the petals will always grow back. So does your own flesh and blood, the child of your womb (or scrotum) deserve to be ridiculed and judged? I THINK NOT!

I am young...sixteen to be exact, so you may not value my opinion. HOWEVER, I am happy, emotionally stable, and confident. My advice is to wait until you've put in work. You have to do your own research so you can gather your own opinion. What others tell you is meant for you to take out what YOU need. The rest is what makes that person unique. You have to find your "the rest" through research, self evaluation, and prayer if you believe. Those who do these things will in the end always know when they are ready. And all the devastating results will be much less likely. 

I apologize for the looooong rant, but i had to get it out!

Just A Child

The Unvailing of the "Pretty Yellow Monsta"

"Please allow me to introduce myself...My name is" Ok enough of that, I'm Nasya King and I am the pretty yellow monsta. Why would i choose such a title for myself you ask...the truth is I made this blog a year ago when i was into writing rap lyrics. The line was inspired by all of the rappers calling themselves beasts. Like being some sort of snarling vicious creature was in anyway attractive, or gave any insight into your true intellect. I guess the point is to intimidate, but I for one don't fine a beast very intimidating. Beasts are usually anamilistic creatures whom society has deemed are beneath us, and in some cases, even need our help. Usually they are killed by a gun, an arrow, or other commonly used (not very hard to retrieve) human mechanism. Like I said, not very intimidating. At least not when you think about how this is a human, which looks, sounds and acts much less intimidating than any true beast anyway. So the rap goes as such

"I am not a beast I'm a pretty yellow monsta 

she thinks that she's fly but really nobody wants ha

I am the queen hail to me all of that

first you stepped up than you got knocked back

Now you talking trash but where is you at

I am not a kitty I will not chase a rat."

There is a lot more but we won't go into it, because as you can see my thinking level was not necessarily on a level with tupac back then. Cut me some slack though. I was only in junior high. However, maybe I was on to somethin then. I mean there's nothing wrong with being pretty, my skin color is what most would call a yellow bone (hence the yellow), and well monsters are associated with the creature under your bed. These are the ones that are associated with truly horrible...well pretty much anything.

 So why would anyone want to represent the creature that hides under children's beds or lurks in closets, the ones who commit vile acts of crime, or the freak show that everyone is afraid of because of there differences? Well idk about others, but i believe everyone deserves a chance to be heard, to try and be understood, and to be defended by at least one person in the world. Those people who seem to be the lowest of the low were born just as cute as you, your siblings, your parents, and even your own sweet babies. Society makes monsters, they DO NOT just appear from even the thinnest of airs. So who better to defend them than the "pretty yellow" girl (not my words but I'll borrow them for this purpose) who battles with her own monsters everyday? Everyone is a monster in one form or another. Society has just put a label on certain things they deem "not of human nature." Let karma, God, Allah, the afterlife, or anything else that in your belief is the final justice do it's job. Because as human beings our job is not to cast judgment on others but to observe, learn, and act in ways that will mold us into a person that we could stand up and defend. And then plant the seeds in other people's minds that they should do the same. And sometimes that seed sprouts, but sometimes it doesn't. Don't chop it down and don't overfeed it, because that's what creates a true monster. Not in that seed, but in you.

Conversation With Self

Side Note: The "a" instead of the "er" on Monsta/Monster represents a more open, lighthearted version of the word.