This topic has gotten me very heated in the past and this is NO DIFFERENT. Why does society think it's there choice to intrude upon a girls most personal experience and put a price on her sex. Also, on the flip side, why has good ol' society contiuosly equated manliness with their "body count" ? The outcome of these actions has been devastating to our young people (I am sixteen myself). I want to hit upon these subjects as well as teen pregnancy, sexual ignorance, and YES even religion.
Let us first delve into the world of the young American male. The guy who is constantly under scope to see as to whether he will protect and step up as a man or fall short. Way too often, however, the other end of the scope has a special lense. And it only lets a man's manlihood be seen through that lense if he's sexually active. Now granted this is not all people so don't go on some rant about that. However, way too often do I hear teen girls on up through women saying that they wold never be with a virgin male. WHY EXACTLY? Is it because he is ALMOST (there are other ways to get infected like a dirty needle) garaunteed to be clean of STD's and having children? Or maybe it's because he knows himself enough to realize that he needs to wait, or at least informed enough to know he's not ready to make the decision yet. Now in NO WAY am I bashing any males who have had multiple sex partners. I am bashing the ones who have multiple sex partners becaue they "wanted to be a man". I believe some women might be jealous of a man who waits because she had a bad sexual experience or whatever. So they want to look for guys who are just confused or guilty or even shameful as they are. Which by the way makes for an extremely unhealthy relationship since neither of you are at the emotional state to be "Knocking boots" anyway. Which brings me to my next point.
I was watching a movie called Saved and the main character (a teen pregnant by a homosexual guy because she tried to save him by having sex with him and it in effect made her doubt everything she'd believed in) said something very intriguing. What if Mary (the virgin) was faking it? It would be the greatest lie ever that no one could use again. I for one do believe every word of the bible. However, the guilt and shame that was constantly being thrown down at her from those same people she once saved other people's souls with was too much. I do believe in the bible when it says sex should happen in the sanctity of marriage. However, it also says no sin is greater than another. Would you like someone calling you a miguided spon of satan and trying to exorcise you everytime you told a lie? He forgives, so forget about what others say. It's like people put this price tags on virginity. They tell little girls to gaurd it with all of their might. Make those who are not virgins seem like the scum of the earth. Married or not it's like once your virginity is gone..whoops there goes your worth. Unfortunately for most girls there goes that self esteem that relationship with your God etc. I have seen posts where there is a girl commenting "oh i've been saving myslef for marriage for 28 years and counting!" and a woman, "I waited until marriage and now i......." The point is, who do you think gets more praise? ALWAYS that girl. Like people are saying HOLD ON FOR DEAR LIFE. Those people are the ones who should catch a grip. Most likely THEY had sex at a time when they weren't ready be it marrital or pre marrital. Now they're want to project there pain and guilt on the ones who have made a well thought out decision. The decision should be between her/him and their God.
Speaking of God. Why do people think that teen pregnancy is the worst thing that could happen. Because I picture the worst is being pushed off a building and knowing you're going to die aaaaalllll the way down. But regardless, don't you think those little precious babies that are "bastards" are just as much a part of God's Plans as the little ones you have running around? Why should we treat these children or their parents like some sort of sin itself. They can be forgiven but they are always going to be wrong. I am a bastard child. All of my parents EIGHT CHILDREN are. Which they have acquired over their 20 something year relationship. We have turned out smart, talented, respectful, and spiritual. If there is one thing that's hurting our teens it is not that, it is sexual ignorance. Never talking to young people about sex, sexual acts, how to really determine if you're ready etc. It kills me when parents strictly teach their kids SEX IS BAD!! NICE GIRLS WAIT!! LADIES DON'T DO THIS OR THAT!! It's all a steaming pile of crap. Because those are usually the same girls that get confused and just do it because they just want to know more. Are they no longer nice girls because they are "deflowered" (a word i hate btw). It's like a girl isn't as precios as a lovely flower anymore...instead ruined, and plucked from the ground. However, if you instill strong roots..the petals will always grow back. So does your own flesh and blood, the child of your womb (or scrotum) deserve to be ridiculed and judged? I THINK NOT!
I am young...sixteen to be exact, so you may not value my opinion. HOWEVER, I am happy, emotionally stable, and confident. My advice is to wait until you've put in work. You have to do your own research so you can gather your own opinion. What others tell you is meant for you to take out what YOU need. The rest is what makes that person unique. You have to find your "the rest" through research, self evaluation, and prayer if you believe. Those who do these things will in the end always know when they are ready. And all the devastating results will be much less likely.
I apologize for the looooong rant, but i had to get it out!
This Is Absolutely GREAT!
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